Rules for dating an ex boyfriend
Examples of this might include different interests, goals and values, incompatible schedules, dishonesty, infidelity, physical or emotional abuse, or just not being ready for the responsibilities of a serious relationship.Ask yourself what has changed while you've been apart that has affected or resolved these issues to your satisfaction.It basically boils down to whether or not you dumped him.If you want to be extra nice and not send him into a sad spiral, then maybe give it some time before you make a move on his friend. The sooner he gets over you, the better off he'll be.I call my friend Ashley the "Ex-Boyfriend Whisperer." I call her this because no matter how bad any of her breakups have been, four months after the split, Ashley and her former beau have moved safely into the friend zone. Ashley is rare, but she isn't some kind of relationship unicorn. I recently asked Ashley how many serious (more than three months was the cutoff) boyfriends she had, and how many of them she remained friends (in regular contact) with.
If your break-up is civil and you're still friendly, maybe give it a couple of months.
Let something be broke, allow it to heal, and then work on establishing a friendship," explained Alex R., a 24-year-old medical student in Philadelphia. A minimum of half the time you dated."I know it sounds harsh and I guess you could break the rule after like a decade or so, but the key to staying platonic with my exes is limiting our hangouts to group activities," said Adam M., a 33-year-old lawyer in Chicago.
Four years after their breakup, Alana, 31, was a bridesmaid in her ex-boyfriend's wedding.
If you travel in the same social circles, you might want to avoid being in the same place as your ex and the friend you want to date.
Really, though, you probably shouldn't be hanging out with your ex in the first place.
Ghostwriter and film consultant Christina Hamlett has written professionally since 1970.